This is month eight of Hostgator hell for me. I signed up for a Hostgator account 8 months ago, decided I didn’t like the dashboard, hosting or anything else about them and so I tried to cancel the account. I couldn’t. For eight months Hostgator has been sending me invoices which I refuse to pay because I said I CANCELLED MY ACCOUNT. No one is listening. They sent me looooong forms demanding C Panel numbers and technical information and refused to cancel the account unless I filled out more pages …

“Doormats are people who believe they must say yes to things that fill them with resentment so they can hang onto love.” - Patty Newbold
Having grown up in a dysfunctional, boundary trampling home where I was beaten and shamed for not being 100% accommodating and compliant with my abusers, I learned to act the same way in the world. For the last half century or so I’ve been a doormat. And now that I’m learning to respect myself and pursue my own dreams and desires I suddenly woke up and …

One of my readers was asking about psychic abilities - the ability to know or sense when someone is going to call, or to know you’ve gotten a letter from a friend before you even open the mailbox - that sort of thing. What does it mean to have that?
Not much really. Because that ability is something we’re born with really - just like our other senses. When you learn to develop and use it, it can make your life so much easier. The easiest way to explain what is …

I was raised in a family of addicts - alcoholics and a parent addicted to prescription meds. I dated, lived with and was involved with addicts most of my life. I am co-dependent and in recovery for my co-dependency (my tendency to rescue people who refuse to take responsibility for their lives because it enables them to avoid looking at the mess their own life is in. Alcoholics numb their pain with substances, co-dependents numb their pain with caretaking or taking care of, alcoholics. BOTH avoid feeling their feelings. It …

I just watched this amazingly simple, but powerful video from Derek Sivers. If you’re one of those, “Distracted by shiny things,” people like me, and you tend to wander off to watch bottle tops shining in the sun, or other equally enthralling, but totally time wasting things happening instead of pursuing your passions or work, watch this. Then practice.

Hell Yeah or No from Derek Sivers on Vimeo.